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yes, sure, i think parents put too much pressure on their children
also, i think they dun understand this pressure wont make their children to get any improvment
only will make them feel their parents dun understand them

2007-01-01 18:16:23 補充：
pressure on studyperssure on out-side class activitiesperssure on every kind parents think that their children do that not well enough

2007-01-01 18:39:49 補充：
suitable pressure is the powerbut too much pressurewill make children think that, they are studying because of their parents, not because of their interestes

2007-01-01 21:53:15 補充：
no改善辦法the one need to improve that is change larents' mindtheir minds are that antiquethey want children work hardthey want them to become success

2007-01-01 21:53:24 補充：
becausetwo point of them1. they couldnt get any good education when they are young, because of the financial problem, they think that their children can have good education, and want them have good result.2. they are successful people, they want their children can follow their step.

2007-01-01 21:53:35 補充：
but if you want to change their mindit is very hardno any other methodsjust need to let them knowthey force children is meaningless

2007-01-02 08:26:41 補充：
agree with derekeverytime parents will think that they are correctjust ignore their children's feelingsmany activities and also much forcethey just want others to identify them

2007-01-02 08:30:15 補充：
many people, have parents, have childrensit together near the tableto have mealthe topic they only say is...[[my children just wont some awards]][[oh, really? my children ALSO won something]]something like thatvery bothersome dialogue

You are absautely correct !! Besides all of the aboved, one other main point is our parents wish to show off to the other parents, show them that they really concern their kids, how they are busy for them, how they spend a lot of money for them as well. But, don't ever dream that you could change them, you only can change yourself. Otherwise, their best weapon is to deduct your pocket money, or off your internet line or lock up you computer, or the likes.

So, what we could do ? Pretend you are listening to them ? or talk to them ? Sometimes, they may listen but most of time, they pretend also. They always pretend they are democratic，after you talk to them, explain to them, they will have thousands excuses. Most likely, they say, "It is good for you ! Have you ever seen I ask any other person to do so ? I only want you to do, because you are my child ! " What a shit !

They also talk to other parents : " I am not the same as other parents, I am very open to them, always give them freedom, space, and never control them. Why are they still not satisfy ?"

Am I right, guys?

ha ! ha ! We better accept and face to !!!

If you tell them you have pressure.. They will tell you that : I have pressure more than you. Your job is only study, but for us, works......money......my boss..........................
So, keep you mouth shut up !!

I remember one father said in the mass :

Why the parents bring the children to learn any kind of ...like piano, painting, ballet, English, Mandarin and so on.?

When they bring them to the piano class, leave them their and they go shopping. When time is up , they come back and send them again to another class, then they may go to "high tea". Time's up, go back and take them to .....and they may go somewhere to enjoy themselves......

Father asked : Why the parents don't stay with their children togther ? Whatever they want them to learn, stay and learn together. Don't just leave them and run away to enjoy themselves. If you could stay with children, you would understand what they really need and what they really feel.

So, try to ask them to do anything together with you ? May be they understand more.

Good- bye !!

Yes .
The most heavy pressure put by the prants is the high hope on the study.