20分,please help me.我好唔開心

2006-11-22 5:52 pm
我升唔倒大學,我屋企人想我further study咁我就去讀without much though.
我其實唔鍾意讀書.其實我都唔知自己鍾意咩唔鍾意咩,The question“Who am I?still confuses me.

我又唔夠d朋友叻,佢地個個讀書運動都好過我好多,sister又靚過我,我cousin又...

我都唔記得我上次peaceful咁同我屋企人傾計係幾時喇,佢地返工好夜先返屋企,返到0來我都訓左,就算佢地突然間早返,我都一係訓0係sofa睇緊tv,一係玩電腦,Then often nag令我好煩,我砰門.之後佢地一再罵我,我就blank faceor即刻返房.我諗silence好過quarrels



i feel extremely sad,please tell me how many problems i have,explain more for me and how can i solve these problems.

回答 (6)

2006-11-23 6:25 pm
✔ 最佳答案
我單刀直入了, 請先有心理準備, 因我讀書小可能用詞會較........
你自卑, 你喜歡様様事情去同人比, 享受唔到你所做每様事情的樂趣,
同朋友一齊玩就係去享受歡聚時光, 為何要想他們叻, 他們可以怎可以這,
要是這様說你是想同有智障的人一起去突顯自己叻, 我想你朋友都唔會(唔係想話智障人仕)
讀書, 運動, 玩遊戲都好過你那又點? 你和他們一起為的是甚麼?請問問自己,
叻, 靚等全都無一個實際既標準, 可解要自擾之?

who am i?呢個係一個人生哲理問題, 好多哲學家都未有一個確實的定案, 但本人幾喜歡尼釆, 而係佢既著作度都有提及過你這個問題, 你可以去參考一下佢既著作, 而且上面有位人兄講得好好, 每當你迷失之時可以藉著書本來找出新機, 因為書本的確係不錯的指南針。而本人就更覺得自己係邊個唔緊要, 重要的是你想要開心或悲哀

家庭之間的糾紛我到現在還是攪不清楚, 因為能力有限, 又或者...家家有本難諗的經就是, 但是就咁聽你講, 你家庭還算不錯, 去外國讀書你可知道要幾多資金嗎, 不是叫你因為錢多而去珍惜就去感謝, 而係你都f.7啦, 唔係咁都重要人講你知, 知係用時間, 努力, 一點一滴去積累回來, 駛錢易到爆, 找錢...你找過未先.....問一問自己, 家人要你出去讀係因為咁, 為唔想見到你, 無眼屎乾淨盲?還是只是默默的想你好, 可能家人之間的鴻溝永遠也清不了, 但我想問, 他們間中的無理是否可以接受? 要慘到上來申訢? 明白可為身在福中不知福? 他們所受的苦又可以向誰傾訢?他們就是不識表逹自己就是, 你讀得書多咪張就下大量下囉, 你如果唔想咁諗, 你咪當佢地請你返學比錢你駛要你受氣囉, 你要點諗隨你喜歡

請你學會不要比較, 你會活得自在, 老生常談, 人比人比死人, 做好自己享受與友共聚就好了, 做咩鬼野去諗who am i?咁哲學呀, 令到自己更痛苦, 如果真係有興趣就去讀哲學囉或心理學都好呀,
之後請你看一些書, 你可以看一看"別為小事找狂"或多或少可以幫到你
再想想自己的問題及處身的環境, 是否那麼可悲, 得閒既做下義工, 或者你可以擴闊自己的眼光令自己想多些開心些,
得閒咪再將自己既問題打上來, 大家都希望幫到你, 因為在這社會中我們應該互勉之

其實你己好幸福.....................

2006-12-02 02:08:43 補充:
等你來信呀~
參考: 過來人~
2007-01-05 9:12 pm
資料不齊全!
2006-11-22 6:35 pm
我覺得你應該是有少許自卑, 你好計較別人話你, 你又好鐘意和別人作比較, 你有沒有聽過"人比人, 比死人", 沒有一個人是十全十美, 不應和別人作比較, 你覺得你姐姐靚, 但可能你姐姐又覺得你有野好過佢.
你想改善的話, 你可以參加一些義務工作, 多些和不同的人相處, 應該可以改善一些人際關係, 又可以上一些關於人際關係的課, 學怎樣和別人相處, 這樣應該可以改善你和你家人的關係.
有時候若果沒時間和他們傾計, 你可以在電話留言又或者你可以寫一些字條放在他們會看到的地方, 你先作出關心. 若他們感受到, 就會有回報.
至於讀書方面, 你若果不喜歡讀書, 你可以工作, 現在有好多夜間課程, 你可以先工作, 再看看自己的需要, 可能到時候你會找到你喜歡的東西,
其實總結來說你應該坦白和家人說你自己的意向, 不應他們說什麼你做什麼, 你已經長大, 有自己的思想和方向, 一時的迷失並不等於以後, 你應該尋找自己的方向.
我衷心祝福你可以找到自己的未來.
2006-11-22 6:24 pm
ok, 就start with 你读书开始。
其实不是每个人都知道自己喜欢什么, 都要过一段日子。
first of all, 以前你study 什么?business? Art? Science?
边一课你最有兴趣而且最高分?
At least 你可以知道向哪个方向。
如果可以,最好是尝试揾份Part time,它可以让你知道大约边种行业适合你。
那你就可以去念你要的课程。

老实说,有张cert better than none. 如果你要work in office, certificate is a MUST.
那就看你喜欢去work in which working environment in the future.

Do not think about "Who Am I?" this question. Becauese You are YOU! No one can replace. Just be yourself.
"我又唔夠d朋友叻,佢地個個讀書運動都好過我好多,sister又靚過我,我cousin又...", 你是不是成日跟人比?人比人,比死人。 每个人都有他地长处, 有可能你不知道你sister, cousin, friends ah 地短处。如果有,他们读不会给你知啦!

我认为,你因该揾个时间同你家人傾一傾 。
妈妈是最好的傾計对象, 因为她生你吗,所以一定会愿意同你好好傾。
当然,你要有好好的脾气跟她谈,不然谁会喜欢和发着脾气的人傾計。

The root cause of your problems are:
1) you confuse the subject/course you are studying now because it might not suite you or you do not like it at all.
2) Always compete yourself with others, especially compare yourself with their Strenghts and lack of self confidence.
3) You need attention from your parents or family. You want to talk to your closers beloving one to share your feelings.

Try to make time for your family as they worked so hard just to provide you a better lifestyle. If you know how to cook, maybe you can make some soup or food for them, i believe they will feel touching oo~.

Hope i have helped you. :)
2006-11-22 6:14 pm
Firstly, you have to control your emotion even your family not support what you think ! The most important things, you need to know what you like and what you good for ! If you decide not study any more, think about what kind of job you prefer ! You can tell your family that you can go futher study when you start your career even you can't get in the University at the moment ! Probably you will interest to be a full time student after you work for couple years later !
I can tell, I'm the same person like you ! I don't like to study but when I start my career I found I lack of education ! So I decide to save some money to study aboard ! Try to talk to your family peacefully and tell them what you think and what you like ! If you have time do some research and show them you plan ! I think they will understand you ! If you still have any problem, email me at [email protected] ! Take it easy and everything would be fine !! ;D
2006-11-22 6:09 pm
呢d情況已經係非常普遍,父母回家一個上網,一個睇碟.而且你都有番咁上下大.佢地更加會少左理你,但不要以為佢地唔關心你.如果唔係都唔會迫你上大學啦.
其實有能力上大學是令人非法羨慕,雖然你可能不喜歡上大學,可是不代表你不能夠完成課程.
讀書運動都好過你好多,又靚過你好多既人何止係朋友,家人?咁又如何可以去介定那一個才是最好最靚呢?
你就唔好砰門啦,整爛左隻門又要買新野.而且又沒有氣度,你都睇太多電視了.以為砰門就是發洩情緒方法.
其實有時間就好好地同家人溝通下,我發現左一個方法好有用,就是全家共用的日記簿.
有時當口當面,個個都要面子同尊嚴,不如將心中感覺用文字記下,大家都可以慢慢思考對方其實心中最在意最感障礙的地方,從中可以達到共識.

希望你 生活愉快


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