need advice about a woman-help!?

well i've dated a girl who had a similiar problem. not to ur extreme though. it seems like ur relationship is built on a somewhat unstable foundation.

not saying that she doesn't care for you at all. she may, but if she's not truly able to let go of that guy and work on the relationship she has with you. no matter how hard you try, in the end u'll just be left with a broken heart.

i think that you should sit her down and have a deep down conversation with her. talk about your relationship with her. what she wants out of it. your expectations and also hers. communication is key. both parties have to be honest though. there shouldn't be a topic you guys can't talk about. share your thoughts. etc etc.

good luck to you.

just be patient with her. as a women, she knows that you are probably the better man for her but it's hard to just turn feelings on and off. i'm sure she knows that she deserves better than to be with a man that is in and out of jail and i'm assuming this is not the first time he's been locked up, but it's something she has to see for herself.
try to be supportive of her. it's hard to "lose" someone and not have any control of the situation. this guy made the decision to do what he did to get locked up and she is left with may unanswered questions and feelings she's probably not sure what to do with.
don't try to pressure her into a relationship, just be her friend. in time she will open up and let you in. think about it, she pushes you away probably out of frustration b/c she knows she's trying to hang on to a man she can't have b/c he's in jail. when she does this, just give her some space and when she's ready she'll get a hold of you.
all i can say is hang in there. it may take her a while to realize it but in her heart she already knows that her past relationship is over but it's hard to let go. be a friend to her first and if it's meant to be, it will be. i wish you all the best. good luck.

Move. Literally offer her a place to move to. Far away. If she is willing to go thats a good sign. Do you know WHY she wants this guy so bad? To be honest she will not stick around otherwise

Offer her your assistance and reassure her that you will not let anything happen to her.

In the case her ex get out. Show her what she will be missing if she leaves you.

Chances are she is going to go back to this guy once he gets out of jail, even though he is a loser. Somehow she is drawn to him, and probably nothing you say to her will change her mind. Just forget her, and move on with your life, I am sure there is someone else out there that completes you.

tell her how u feel