My husband says no to Baby , but i want it , i am desparate. Is pregnancy by accident , a good option ?
2006-05-11 11:34 pm
I desparately want a child of my husband. He says we will wait for few more months...i do not use oral contraceptives..he uses contraception..is it possible to make accident happen ? what are the ways ?
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2006-05-11 11:45 pm
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i know how you feel it is an awful feeling to want a baby so badly ,but if you spin it around and you were been forced to have a baby which in theory is what you will be doing to your husband how would you feel ? if you wanrt a baby and get pregnant "accidently" then he will probably stay with you but he may resent you. But if you wait and both plan your baby together think how exciting it will be to know that you are doing something you both want 100% and there is something very romantic about actually trying for a baby i know it is hard but please think carefully good luck
2006-05-12 12:38 am
It's probably not a good choice to "accidentally conceive a child", because you husband obviously has a reason for not wanting a baby, you should probably sit down and tell him where you stand on the issue, so that you both can agree on a baby, because once you bring one into this world, it's 18+ years to properly raise it, and you don't want "your"choice to come back and haunt you, I would sit down and talk to him and ask him why he doesn't want a child, good luck and I hope you all reach an agreement!
2006-05-11 11:56 pm
contraception? there are many kinds.......
you can poke holes on condoms, but it's not hard for him to discover them if he is careful.
you can always tell him "It's safe today" when it's not, and get him not to wear them. However, it may seem fishy to him if he knows your cycle.
also, you can try to get him to try other "less effective" ways of contraception, such as withdraw. or the day counting thing. tell him you like love making better without condoms, and either tell him "it's safe today" or "just don't come inside me."
but.... waiting is also a good option.
BTW the antibiotic answer is also quite good.
you can poke holes on condoms, but it's not hard for him to discover them if he is careful.
you can always tell him "It's safe today" when it's not, and get him not to wear them. However, it may seem fishy to him if he knows your cycle.
also, you can try to get him to try other "less effective" ways of contraception, such as withdraw. or the day counting thing. tell him you like love making better without condoms, and either tell him "it's safe today" or "just don't come inside me."
but.... waiting is also a good option.
BTW the antibiotic answer is also quite good.
2006-05-11 11:50 pm
Is it possible you bet it is. BUT I would not do it. What is he finds out you did it on purpose? That would be a terrible issue. Have you both considered the pros and cons? Why do you want one NOW? why does he want to WAIT? Need to have good reasons for both. Poke a hole in his condoms with a needle. When he throws the condom out in the trash go to the trash and put some in.
2006-05-11 11:50 pm
This is something the two of you should have discussed before you got married. Deceiving him into fatherhood is not a good thing to do. It violates the top qualities a relationship should have... respect, honesty, trust, faithfullness and compassion for each other. Communication is also very important and it seems you two haven't communicated very well on this matter. You need to have an honest conversation with him about why the wait, if he is only saying wait a few months to get the subject dropped, and what his feelings are about having children. You also need to be honest with your self about why you are so desparate to have a child. Depending on his reasons for wanting to wait, you may need to see a therepist to help the two of you sort out you feelings and frustrations over it. It will be worth it to wait until you are both in the same place and are ready and wanting a baby. When both of you are willing participants it makes the tough job of being a parent easier to handle and each of you will be able to offer support to the other.
2006-05-11 11:48 pm
Think of others for once instead of yourself. The innocents ALWAYS suffer in this world and you are trying to add to it!
The decision to have a child is very often taken too lightly. It should also be agreed to fully by BOTH PARTIES!
This possible deception you are planning is solely for YOUR benefit, not your husbands' or the childs'. You need to act with a little more maturity and wait, in my opinion.
The decision to have a child is very often taken too lightly. It should also be agreed to fully by BOTH PARTIES!
This possible deception you are planning is solely for YOUR benefit, not your husbands' or the childs'. You need to act with a little more maturity and wait, in my opinion.
2006-05-11 11:48 pm
It is not a good idea to get pregnant than have your husband possibly leave you. Talk to him and ask him why he wants to wait. Maybe there is a reason for waiting.
2006-05-11 11:46 pm
like everyone saying bad ideal. especially if he's not ready. most likely would end up bad realtion ship. but talk to him ask him why he wants wait few mnths? whats the reason he wants wait few mnths.maybe he wants be finicially ready if so might need more than few mnths. but you need to know he just not gonna keep saying after the few mnths pass he don
t say another few mnths. if so you and him really have problem cause if he keeps putting off he might not want children then you need to talk alot. after few mnths. he might be ready. good luck don't be in such a hurry. its not good to push for a baby, for you,him or the baby.skypearl2004
t say another few mnths. if so you and him really have problem cause if he keeps putting off he might not want children then you need to talk alot. after few mnths. he might be ready. good luck don't be in such a hurry. its not good to push for a baby, for you,him or the baby.skypearl2004
參考: my own experience.
2006-05-11 11:45 pm
I think you need to talk to your husband about why he doesn't want a baby, economy? health? or other problems.
Find it and solve it.
Accident can be an option, I believe he won't ask you to abort it if you get pregnacy
Find it and solve it.
Accident can be an option, I believe he won't ask you to abort it if you get pregnacy
2006-05-11 11:45 pm
My Friend wanted a child so bad and she finally got pregnant. Her husband didn't want kids and told her this from the first time they got married. Sadly she lost her baby and her mar rage. Careful how you go about that.
2006-05-11 11:43 pm
If that is the case, look for a man who is extremely intelligent and also good looks and strong and a sense of decency in him.
In fact, may be I can help you have a baby like that !
But I want that your family background should be excellent so that my seed does not get ignored by the hardships of the world of poverty !
I am very very careful about that !
If you agree, please send me ur phone no. confidentially at :
[email protected]
In fact, may be I can help you have a baby like that !
But I want that your family background should be excellent so that my seed does not get ignored by the hardships of the world of poverty !
I am very very careful about that !
If you agree, please send me ur phone no. confidentially at :
[email protected]
參考: No source ! Only my thoughts !
2006-05-11 11:42 pm
My ex-wife did that, if that tells you anything.
2006-05-11 11:41 pm
maybe if your husband don't want kids.maybe you and your husband should talk about adoping a child.
2006-05-11 11:40 pm
you can keep on talking to him about it,but u can poke holes in the condom and u could become pregnant that way...
but i would ask what would happen if i get pregnant before u want one ??? that is a what if question just see what he says to that
but i would ask what would happen if i get pregnant before u want one ??? that is a what if question just see what he says to that
2006-05-11 11:40 pm
tell him you want to take the pill then even if you are on the pill, it is proven that antibiotics can cause the pill to be ineffective. your best way is to stop taking your pill without him knowing, then go to the doctor and get an antibiotic for a bladder infection or fake a sinus infection. stop talking about it with your husband for awhile so he forgets. then when it happens you can say the doctor said the antibiotics could of caused it. if you want a baby you go for it, later you will regret it anyhow if you dont, once the baby does come along he will look at him or her and love it. also if he is hell bent on no baby and knows you want one and is not willing to compramise as far as timing, he is selfish. go for what you want, dont wait til your to old and then regret it. but wait until he forgets talking about this. good luck sweetie
2006-05-11 11:39 pm
He said give him a few months right? Why push it on him if he just asks for some more time?
A baby is a big deal, not something you should just jump into and force others to do too.
If you have an "accidental" pregnancy when he is responsible for the protection, he will know you had a part in it and resent both you and the baby. Do you want that for your child? Do you really want to raise a child in a family in which the father did not want it?
Don't play around with his condoms and just give him time then sit down and discuss maters.
A baby is a big deal, not something you should just jump into and force others to do too.
If you have an "accidental" pregnancy when he is responsible for the protection, he will know you had a part in it and resent both you and the baby. Do you want that for your child? Do you really want to raise a child in a family in which the father did not want it?
Don't play around with his condoms and just give him time then sit down and discuss maters.
2006-05-11 11:39 pm
In a good marriage big decisions are made together. Imagine if the situation were reversed. Would you ever trust your husband again if you found out he tricked you? If you don't have trust, your marriage is in big trouble - no place to add a baby.
2006-05-11 11:39 pm
Not a good Idea. Don't do it. If he doesn't want a baby I'm sure he has a good reason as to why. he your husband just talk to him let him know how much you want it. But don't do anything your going to regret latter.
2006-05-11 11:38 pm
Definitly not. That is not a good way to start a family. A few months is not a long time to wait, especially when you consider this is a lifetime decision. If he were ever to find out about the "Accident" it could ruin your relationship, your trust and he may end up resentling the child.
Give it a few months and if he still isn't ready then you may have to make some difficult decisions.
Good luck to you!
Give it a few months and if he still isn't ready then you may have to make some difficult decisions.
Good luck to you!
2006-05-11 11:38 pm
Bringing a child into the world based on dishonesty is not a good start!
2006-05-11 11:38 pm
Thats not right just to make it happen by "accident" your not respecting what he wants, maybe he wants to be financially stable. Unfortanatly alot of women trick their man and get preg. if they pop holes threw condoms, etc its not right.
2006-05-11 11:38 pm
no that is a bad idea...you should have talked about it before you got pregnat...you need to talk to him about it!
2006-05-11 11:38 pm
He only wants to wait a while so just chill out - I'll happen.
2006-05-11 11:37 pm
U can have an accidental pregnancy, but then why should he trust you and what kind of message are you conveying to your unborn child?
2006-05-11 11:37 pm
that is not fair to him. try talking him into it. Would u rather have a husband or a kid?
2006-05-11 11:37 pm
Sure if you want to end up divorced and a single mother.
2006-05-11 11:36 pm
only if you want a divorce or ruin your marriage is it a good option!
參考: a smart person with no money
2006-05-11 11:36 pm
there is no way
2006-05-11 11:36 pm
Bad idea. Call Dr. Phil.
2006-05-11 11:36 pm
u can make it happen, but it might break off the relationship u have with ur husband, do u really wanna raise a child alone?
i think u should just talk to him and try to work it out
i think u should just talk to him and try to work it out
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